Being overlooked for a well deserved position is disappointing. We believe our performance and efforts were clearly better than the other applicants. Unfortunately, the decision was based mostly on relationships not performance. Yes, we want to feel jaded and even want to tell the decision makers what we think about their decision. We may believe you should apply elsewhere to avoid being on the team of a person we think is incompetent or less worthy of the promotion.
May I encourage us to challenge ourselves in the area of spiritual and professional development by shifting focus and mindset concerning the situation.
- THANK THE HIRING MANAGER AND INTERVIEWERS FOR THE OPPORTUNITY AND ANY FEEDBACK TO IMPROVE YOUR LIKELIHOOD OF BEING HIRED NEXT TIME.
Although you were overlooked for the position and/or felt rejected, remember this situation does not define you as a person. Instead of grudgingly accepting their decision, thank them for the opportunity to interview for the position and ask for feedback.
- VENT WITH A NON-COWORKER WHO IS A TRUSTED FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER.
Be honest with yourself and with God. Confess your disappointment with God and a trusted friend or family member. Do not suppress or dismiss your feelings and emotions.
- PRAY FOR A MIND RENEWAL AND DIRECTION.
Seek the Holy Spirit and other wise counsel for guidance on how to interact with the new supervisor. My word of wisdom concerning this matter is:
- Treat the person the way we would want to be treat if the position was given to us.
- Debunk/Rebuke any negative thoughts about the situation and the person. To renew our mind, we may want to meditate on these things about the person: whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things,” Philippians 4:8.
- Affirm and edify the person by giving them compliments on what they did that was noble, just, pure, lovely, something of good report, or praiseworthy.
We are not being an imposter when we encourage and esteem other people. We are becoming more like Christ. We are seeking other’s greater good. We are exemplifying 2 Timothy 1:7, Power, Love, and Sound Mind & Self-control.
- We have the power to overcome rejection or disappointment.
- We have the love from God that reaffirms you and the capacity to love others.
- We have a sound mind to appropriately discern what God is saying concerning this situation and person.
- We have the self-discipline to surrender negative thoughts and feelings to God and replace them with Philippians 4:8.
Remember “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places,” Ephesians 6:12 KJV.
Some of this wickedness is triggered inside us; letting us know inner-healing and/or deliverance is necessary.
We Are Blessed,